November 28, 2008
A secret a woman could have never kept

I was in the first class at The University (i.e., UVA) that admitted undergraduate women. This was 1970. There were 200 women in that first class. By 1975, half of the admitted class each year were women.
In what had been an all male bastion, you cannot imagine the attention these initial women received. Dating a U Chick was the ultimate status. In this select group, there were a couple of incredibly “desired” women who could immediate elevate one’s status to a true BMOC. Of course, as most beautiful women know, these women have the power; and need not waste their time on a lowly first yearman like myself.
One of these goddesses had dated a prep school classmate of mine and accepted a few dinner invitations from me. Of course, all my fraternity brothers knew I was just the “warm up act” for her senior varsity sport captain boyfriend who through the genorousity of moi was off the hook for dinner on those nights. I eventually got the clue and learned one of my great lesson about the fairer sex.
Over last Christmas, I was at a debutanee party and was chatting with one of my classmates from Virginia whose oldest daughter was making her debut that year. He and I had been rivals for a girl in high school when we attended different prep schools. We vaguely knew each other before we found ourselves suitemates in Balz dormitory that first year at college. Over that year, we became friends, and while not fraternity brothers, we had numeorus mutual friends in each other’s fraternity house. Over the ensuing years, we peridocially reconnected with our most recent interaction being the Indian Princesses’ program of the YMCA when our daughters were in the same tribe. From that association, we now have monthly lunches with another dad who had daughters in that tribe.
That evening at the party, my friend nonchalantly asked me if I’d remembered that U Chick goddess with whom I had had a few dates. With collegiate jocularity, and a fleeting embarassment over my lesson learned, I replied yes. My friend then shared a secret no woman could have kept over the past 35 plus years. It seems one summer during his undergraduate years, he received a letter from the “goddess.” He then asked me a question he could have asked me at any time earlier or at least 10 years earlier at any of the many Indian Princesses’ campouts we had attended together. Did I write that letter? Seems my buddy, all these years, had assumed it was written by me to just goof on him.
I hadn’t though about that night again until this week when we had our monthly lunch and I told this tale to the other dad in our group. Of course, he is now bound to us forever in the secrecy which is manhood. Naturally, our newest member asked if either of us had ever seen or enquired about the goddess again over the years. To which we both replied “why destroy the memory.” See as men, we know that the goddess could never be as hot or as good looking as we remember her to be. And that, my friends, is one of the many differences between men and women.

Let’s see. About mid September, Treasury Secretary Paulson announces the financial markets need 750 billion for a bailout. It takes until October 3rd to enact a pork laden bill for this rescue. The following week the Dow Jones loses 22 % of its value. Boy, the Richmond real estate market must really be in the tank. Think again, Einstein. Despite 6 weeks of financial chaos, October sales for ‘08 were only down 22 % when compared with October ‘07. And considering for all of ‘08, we’ve been running at about a 30 % plus decline versus ‘07, there should be dancing in the streets. With October ‘08 numbers now in, the decline for the year is now at 29 %.


I have just returned from the polls. I arrived at the polls prior to 6 a.m. with the thought there would be few people that early. I live in a very Republican district in an affluent area where folks can vote at their leisure. I was greeted this morning with a line of over 100 people already waiting.
The Northern Neck